I think that on some level, I am afraid of them also. I think that the blanker their look, the higher the fear level, which is why I felt like I did accomplish more with the "coach" who took a friendly neighbor approach (until I tripped her trigger with personal information, which was a careless blurt). And that's why I'm searching for a really collegial, casual and open style from a T. And in retrospect, the T that I interviewed who went on a bit much about himself now seems like a safe place for me.
I'm mystified, mostly, by those who have a warm, fuzzy feeling about their T. Increasingly, I see the whole undertaking as akin to a root canal.