i so understand calling t and then when he calls back, ignoring his call. except that usually he just calls back; again, and again, and again, etc.
talk to t, let him know. it is scary going back to t after sharing. afraid of their reaction. but usually t is just t. i am the one afraid.

i'm divorced, so no help there.
mkac, go be with t, he will help. he understands. and he will be there for you!