All,

As some of you know, I've not had great T experiences and yes, I'm looking again, in full awareness that there may not be a therapist who can deal with the likes of me......

I'm sick of taking stabs and flying blind on this.

Anyone have any suggestions? I have a few friends in therapy, but I've been told that can be weird to have the same T as your BFF.....!

How can I go about this in an intelligent way? Are there professional associations? Online reviews? (God forbid that I had done an online review of my cold, distant T!)....Should I check review boards or any other such things? Shall I contact my insurance provider (they initially sent me a huge long list that was so bewildering that I threw up my hands and decided on this whole life coach thing).

I'm not completely disenchanted with the life coach approach because some of my remaining problems would perhaps be suited to a "I'm here to check in and set goals" approach.

Any thoughts?

the last good T that I had is on the left coast...miles and miles and now years ago....but the relationship was transformative!

Any hints for locating that great helper in a tiny town?

Has anyone here ever done online or phone work with a T?

Clearly, I'm doing something wrong, and if I'd never had a good therapist, I would just say.....the heck with it...but I do think it is worth another try....

Or do I?