Just wanted to add my voice to the me-too chorus...it's such an amazing/weird/empowering thing to see so many people having had the same experience.

I'm still really uncomfortable using the "a" word, even for things that seem pretty obviously abusive (like injuries and sex). I think the vulnerability is so hard..of course we resist being told it wasn't normal and that it was abuse...that means we weren't in control of the situation!