So here's my story...

I went to a Dr an year ago for some health problems. I was extremely attracted to him from the first visit and I could sense he liked me too. Anyway, long story short, I saw him for a few months. We started texting outside of the office and became friends. I found out he has a long term girlfriend. Anyway, about a few months ago, we started becoming closer friends. He asked me to dinner and I went...nothing physical has ever happened between us. So we go to these dinners once a month or so and there is definitely flirting going on, but it never goes beyond that. He already knows I like him and he has even said that if we had met at a different time, we would be dating. He is also 12 years older than me. Anyway, every time I hang out with him, it feels like a date. He picks me up, he pays for dinner, we go drinking, he drives me back home, I hug him and that's pretty much it. His gf does call/text while we are at dinner and he makes up some kind of lie. I feel extremely guilty when this happens. I try to justify it by saying we are just friends but the fact that he is lying to his gf, makes it seem like we are not just friends. To make it worse, his gf works at his office and she is extremely nice and we get along. It feels wrong but at the same time I want us to remain friends. I have a hard time controlling my romantic feelings for him though.

I am trying a new policy of not contacting him which I started last Friday but he texted me Saturday. I am going to Vegas for my bday and I did invite him to come (thinking that he never would)...but he texted asking what hotel and what weekend I was going. I am not sure how he is going to explain that to his gf. Of course my friend said this is a bad idea and she is going to make sure nothing happens between us if he does end up coming.

I feel like i am obsessed with this man because I am having a very difficult time not contacting him We get along well but at the same time, I know I should be looking for someone that is my age and that is available. I already talk to my ex-therapist about this who was a male. He really didn't see anything wrong with the relationship. I guess in his mind, as long as we weren't having sex, it wasn't cheating but as a female, I tend to think of it differently. I guess what I am looking for is advice on how to get over someone when you feel like you are obsessing over them?