Hey Purple, have you heard about the books "Men are from Mars, Women from Venus"? It is explained that when men have a problem they like to either solve it or minimize it and women don't want to do either of those (actually, we get upset when men use their techniques on us!). Women just want to be heard and to vent about it. Maybe your fiance is doing this?

Maybe there is a middle ground, though, in that you could try to enter into today a little more? (But don't stop processing the past).

It really sounds like he is trying to help. He sees you in distress and wants to help.