My boyfriend and I have been dating 2.5 years. He is not very open about past relationships, but he has been pretty open about his long-term girlfriend from high school and has told me almost everything about his prior marriage of 6 years. As for other relationships, he's almost silent. He says it doesn't matter...it's in the past and has nothing to do with us. I agree with this for the most part even though I'm a bit different. I'm pretty open about my exes (many are friends on Facebook), and he's even met one of my more significant exes from 10 years ago. Because I'm still friendly with many of them, I've been open from the beginning and told him he can ask me anything. He has not asked any questions saying that it's part of my past.

So, he's very consistent. He doesn't really talk about his exes and doesn't ask me about mine. Fine and good. Recently, however, he's been getting posts on his Facebook page from a pretty young lady...not too big a deal, mostly just friendly comments on his pictures. For some reason though, it hit me the wrong way when the same young woman "liked" a post I'd made on one of his pictures. I asked him if she was an ex, and he said yes. He said she lives overseas. When I asked if they were still in touch, he said "Not really." The vagueness of this response really bothers me...this is kind of typical for him when he doesn't really want to talk about something. I didn't ask anything more and we went about our day.

But I can't seem to get it off my mind. I want to be respectful of his privacy but wonder if there is more to the story that I'm getting. He's so open with me about many other things (problems with his business and financial situation, family issues with his parents and brother, etc.) that the contrast is what worries me. In his culture (he's not American), you don't really talk about other men/women when you're in a relationship, so I am just not sure how to react or to just try to forget about it.