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Originally Posted by PurpleFlyingMonkeys
So my fiance knows my diagnosis, this thread is a spinoff from another thread in the abuse forum but i was hoping to get advice from those with DID on here... so my fiance knows about my DID but i think im explaining it wrong or something. He doesnt understand it. His experience with memtal illness is his ADHD and his grandpas mania, thats it. And the only abuse he's encountered is on tv or the news. So i try to explain DID and why i was given the diagnosis but i must be doing it wrong. He says i just think too much, that its normal not to remember everything. I try to explain its not remembering thats the problem its blacking out, but he doesnt get it. He just doesnt understand the diagnosis and basically believes its what they say it is in the movies.
any advice on how to help him understand this? Anyone have any success on explaining it to someone else and they didnt think you were crazy?
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PurpleFlyingMonkeys...one thing you need to understand... you cant get anyone to understand...bottom line all you can control is what you believe, what you think and what you do.. everyone else including your fiance are going to thing, believe and do what ever they want to, need to will do..
that said
My wife learned about my having DID through my treatment providers and I together... I invited her to attend a team meeting with my therapist, psychiatrist and I. At the meeting we discussed my problems and treatment options and any problems. We have these team meetings so that all my treatment providers are all on the same page with me. DID is confusing enough without each treatment provider doing things a different way, I learned years ago for me it was best to have everyone on the same page so that I could progress not stay stuck or regress in my healing.
She was amazing. she sat there and listened to everything my treatment providers and I said, then towards the end of the meeting she turned to me and said "now I got it, now I understand, So how can I help?"
before this meeting she was floundering, frustrated, annoyed, .....DID is I think even more confusing, frustrating for those that love us, we (people with DID) have been this way all their lives, this is their normal, but those who love us have a different normal so when thrown into the bullpen of abnormal...
not only did she come out of that meeting understanding DID, understanding me and my internal system she also came out of it with wanting to learn more on her own.. which of course led to her becoming a mental health treatment provider herself.
my suggestion invite your fiance to your appointments with your treatment providers. treatment providers deal with this kind of thing...explaining diseases, disorders to those who love the ones with the mental and physical health problems.