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Old Jul 10, 2012, 11:44 AM
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I have to say that I agree with riotgrrl....that taking some time out without even thinking about trying to date may take some of the pressure off. Even though I do not struggle with the issues that you face, I routinely do this just to give myself a break....I've gone years in between relationships and, honestly, it makes me feel strong and independent. I understand that the loneliness that you feel must be unbearable at times, but it is also the current condition of the world. I do have a boyfriend and a fairly large social network but, even with that, it can be miserable to exist among people and still feel as if you are not really being seen.

If it makes you feel any better, I know of at least two happily married couples where one partner has Asberger's Syndrome. I'll be honest in that it can be challenging socializing with the partner that has Asberger's, but both couples are part of my immediate and extended social network and are key members. I think that moving to a larger city (at some point, if you can afford it) may be helpful...for the most part, there is so much diversity that many people don't notice the Asberger's symptoms and really just assume they are each more of the "creative type" or just someone who process things a bit differently.

Have you thought about having a photography show in a local cafe or anything as RomanSunburn mentioned? By the way, you are also a good writer...maybe attending some writing workshops would be interesting for you? I find that most of my friends who are artists are extremely accepting of those who are a bit different...in fact, they kind of look down on me because I "work for the man" in corporate America... :-)