Does it seem to be a non issue to him? Does anything you do connected with DID bother him? If he is accepting of you as a person is it important that he understands the reasons why you do what you do? Could the ADHD be keeping him from following what you are trying to explain? I know sometimes when people would try to explain stuff to me I would just get flooded with their words and then my memory would wipe and they might as well have not said anything. Not sure what attention deficit is like but wondering if it might be something like that?