Hi Rainbow. Sorry you don't know me as I am more of a lurker not a poster (too anxious to post most of the time) I just wanted to say that I am glad that you were not injured in the car accident and it does leave one shaken, that's for sure. As far as your H not having the most comforting reaction I wanted to share that perhaps it was because he was frightened. In the past I have been guilty of responding poorly to similar situations where loved ones could have been hurt. The thought of it scared me and upset me so much that rather than reacting in a loving comforting way, I have sometimes yelled or complained about some silly thing that could have made the whole thing not have happened...totally counter-productive I admit but sometimes in those stressful moments we aren't always at our best. I may be totally off base and unwelcome in my thoughts, just wanted to offer the perspective that maybe your H was concerned.