Hey rainbow...just one more day!

My H's go-to is usually a bit of an anger flare. He gets upset and is like raaarrrrr. I often think his growl is directed towards me, but I have learned it is directed towards what threatened me. Now I tell him, "H, I am really upset and could just use a little love right now". He always softens immediately and gives me an "I'm sorry sweetie, are you ok?". They are like T or anyone else, they need to be told what we need. Yup, it would feel great to not have to tell them...but it doesn't feel horrible to tell them and get what we need.