Purpleflyingmonkeys ... let me get this straight your fiance went to spend some time with friends and you got upset because he wasnt back home with you an hour, two hours later...and your reason you were upset about his not being home with you was because men in the past have hurt you...

Im sorry Im not sure I see the connection...

how is the men in the past affecting whether or not he needs to be home with you on a time limit of an hour or two away from you.. did men in the past abandon you so now you are afraid he's going to abandon you? thats the only possible connection my head is making..

most people I know that have been abused by men in the past avoid being with men or they go the other way and become promiscuous seeking out abusive men who will treat them the same way their abusers did..

from your posts in this thread and your past posts this guy isnt abusing you, all he's doing is spending some time with his friends, which is something that is completely normal, people do spend time with their friends and they dont usually do so on time limits, unless the one at home is abusive and trying to isolate that person who wants to be with their friends.. nothing in any of your posts say anything about you trying to abuse and isolate him...

so Im confused about why you feel he can only spend a few minutes to an hour with his friends and then has to be home with you..and how that fits in with men in your past hurting you..

why is it that you are afraid to have him spend time with his friends instead of being at your side 24/7 or how ever long you can go without him by your side...

throwing some ideas out here...
maybe you can look into getting a pet..dogs make great therapeutic pets for people who have anxiety and feel they cant be left alone even for short periods of time, they are also great in the protection area of things...no one would dream of coming in my house when my wife was not home with my dog around and my dog is great for companionship, anxiety, fears (real and imagined) when my wife is out of town. the same with our cats. Im even getting used to and enjoying my nephews lizard, while I am pet sitting lol,

maybe you can find a hobby of some sort that you can do and save it for when your fiance is out visiting his friends so that you have something calming and special to do.

as for how to get him to understand you and your problems...unfortunately only he can settle this kind of thing within himself. you cant control how he thinks and how much time it takes for him to wrap his head around this...my suggestion like I posted in the other thread maybe invite him to your sessions with your treatment providers, they can help him with any questions, fears, what ever thats going on with in him about your mental problems.