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Originally Posted by Han1
I'm just wondering if the way I am is a product of experience or if I'm supposed to mess up so much in life.
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Of course we are a product of our experiences! When we are born we know nothing and only have some reflexes and our innate personality.
Have you ever noticed how a baby looks at things. They are trying to figure things out.
If we are put into warm and nurturing environments, where our needs are met, we develop very nicely.
If we are put in dysfunctional families, this is what we learn - dysfunction.
We can learn to be healthy, however, at any time. We also have to unlearn the dysfunction.
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Originally Posted by Han1
None of this can be blamed on my past. I can't link the way I'm feeling now to that. It's been too long. I've grown up. Ive dealt with it.
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But have you worked through your past? I healed by taking a behavior today that I didn't like and traced it back to figure out how I developed it. Knowing the source unlinks the behavior. Then you have to learn a healthier way.