Both, I suppose. It sounds like his sister believes you have to be struck or threatened with a gun to be abused, otherwise, the police should not have been involved. I replied with some of what has been going on in our home over the years. Not the sex or drugs part. Then I blocked her. I have enough on my plate right now. It is just to upsetting to hear her accusations toward me.

I am finally starting to feel angry though, and it feels much more empowering than the guilt and shame I felt up until now.