Thank you all for such wonderful advice. He and i had a wonderful night together last night, took the dogs to the beach, then sat under a tree for an hour looking for a light, something we used to do all the time. Sounds strange i know but its a local thing in my town lol. We had fun, he was laughing again, we both apologized and he explained why he was being so distant. He didnt want to stress me out since i get sick when i get stressed, so he was holding everything in. We are working through things. I will have to remember hes not my past abusers, hes not going to hurt me. We have a wonderful relationship, i just have to remember that when im feeling down