I have been with my husband since high school. He and I love each other very much. We are a great team in a crisis too. He's a hard worker and will be eternally faithful too. Should be a perfect happy couple right? Here's the problem. I don't feel like he likes me sometimes or that he embraces the parts of my personality that are REALLY me. I am fun loving and a social butterfly atleast I used to be. He never likes any of the people I do or going out a lot ( well ever really) I like loud fun music and talking. He's quiet and reserved. I know this probably wouldn't be an issue if I had friends to hangout with but he doesn't like that either because that would take away from him and the kids. On the rare occassion I do get a phone call from a friend Literally like once a month he makes snide remarks the entire time about the phone growing attached to my ear etc. He is also a pessimist but says he's a realist. If I work hard cleaning and have something spotless his response is "It looks good bet it won't by tomorrow" or if I come up with an activity or project I want to do he will say something sarcastic like " In all your spare time". If all of this was just a single occurence I would laugh it off or ignore it but this has been going on for years and years. I feel suppressed and disrespected and like my feelings don't matter in our marriage. We have 4 children the oldest is in jr. high the youngest is 2 so leaving would effect them too but I'm not sure how much more of me I can stand to lose. I am turning into a depressed lazy slob version of myself. I look in the mirror and I hate what I see.
Unfortunately I don't see him changing his behavior. I told him I thought we needed counseling and he responded with "yeah I think You do".