Okay so I've been with this guy for nearly 3 years and weveseporated but not broke up 3 times.. after this past time I left him he claims that it opened his eyes to how mean he got towards me, he is the reason I need spine surgery and emotional trama and he used to hold me away from my family and he has got mean physically, but he says I opened his eyes to all of it and realized he really don't want to lose me. Sounds like typical guy talk when they just miss the hot piece of ace they had. We've been together again for a week today, he seems nicer and talks instead of shuts down and he's putting me through school but I just have a feeling he will be nice til I move back in. I know positive thoughts help but letting my guard down is not what I'm willing to do now.