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Jul 11, 2012, 06:39 PM
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Member Since: Oct 2010
Location: Michigan
Posts: 6,543
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My parents did absolutely NOTHING as far as "normal" parenting with us. We basically brought ourselves up. There were 4 of us, and my parents were alcoholics, so we were just "there" as far as they were concerned.
With my own children, I was quite over-protective, but I did NOT hover. I gave them the normal independence, i.e they walked to school when I thought they were old enough; they decided their own classes in high school with a little help, but no insistence on our part since they knew what they wanted to go into; they filled out their own college entrance forms with help from us since they didn't understand the forms, lol.
Once they left home, they were on their own! We did NOT interfere with their lives at ALL, unless they asked for help with something. THEY called US -- we didn't bother them unless we hadn't heard from them for awhile. That has made for a very GREAT relationship with them and I think they've grown into wonderful adults! 
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