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Jul 11, 2012, 10:57 PM
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Member Since: Oct 2010
Location: Michigan
Posts: 6,543
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Why is everything changed? Is it because you have no time together? What has happened between the two of you? Why don't you talk anymore?
Why don't the two of you have a night out together -- kind of a "date" where the two of you have time just for YOU? Where there's no kids, no parents, no anyone else but you two? Maybe you could even make it an over-nighter? You two need some time together, to just get to know each other again and to have some fun. It sounds like you haven't had any privacy or any time alone in a long time. You could do this "date" thing once a week or once a month- whatever you could afford. It would surely help the marriage, and be fun besides. 
You could also use some couples therapy. Why not see a therapist for both of you? Do you think your husband would go? He needs it as much as you do, as he doesn't sound much of a communicator. He need to learn how to talk to you! He's not communicating very well. You two need to learn how to do that -- how to get your feelings out without blaming one another for anything. Plus you could learn how to fight FAIR -- with no low blows or no bringing up the past. Therapy can help you with that too.
Ask him about therapy, and if he won't go, you can still go by yourself. It wouldn't hurt that's for sure. I wish you the very best! Sounds like you have a lot going on in your home. God bless and please take care. Hugs, Lee 
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