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Originally Posted by CantExplain
One of the things I talked about with T today is the fact that I find it very difficult to be happy for someone else. Other people's happiness doesn't make me happy. 
But it's not as simple as that. I was certainly pleased when TheBunnyWithin posted this:
So I can empathise sometimes. But it has to be something that I myself can understand. And I won't feel happy for someone else if I'm feeling sorry for myself.
I got quite a lot of flack here at PC about not being happy for my wife. She is going on a trip to Roswell with my BIL. I would have been happier if it had been my idea and BIL wasn't involved.
I am sad and ashamed that I don't have the right kind of empathy.  |
I think until we have fully worked through he mourning what we didn't get, it will feel hard to be happy for others. It's not what others are getting/doing that we react too, it's what we didn't get/do that we act out on others. Until we shake out our pain, there is no room for joy.