I am a parent of an young adult female child with multiple addictions and problems. We believe the root cause to be Borderline Personality Disorder which has manifested itself in: extreme alcoholism, drug addiction including heroin, eating disorders (currently restricting but historically bullemic), self harm, and to top it off some sort of relationship addiction. She has been treated for most of these and is sober for over 100 days, thanks to twice daily AA meetings and Suboxone.

Recently she has attached herself to a much older man in one of the AA groups. We can see clearly that this attachment is not normal and will likely lead to a crash and burn situation. My question is how are my Wife and I supposed to approach this? Drugs and alcohol and the other disorders have been addressed openly and productively. Discussions about relationships only end in hysterical emotions. Exactly the same screaming and crying we encountered when taking away the last Vodka bottle.

Do we go for a strong intervention here or back off and let the addict work it out?