(((hugs))) sorry I missed this thread till now

What comes first is to limit your saying the "should" statements. Then comes not saying it. Then comes not thinking it everytime for everything. Then comes only a once-in-a-while thinking it. And somewhere along the line, you can allow that the T and others (like here at PC) MIGHT be right, and you don't deserve to take blame or find fault with yourself. Then you want to believe that T and others are right. At a point you find that yeah, maybe that situation doesn't require someone to be at fault. ...

No item mutually exclusive. You are on this path. It's a good one (((canders))