Hi, Mac,
That is brave of you to come here and admit your addiction. The cyber world has created a whole new genre of identity problems. Even here on PC there are people who are not who they say they are. Sad, and scary.
But in general, PC is a safe and supportive place. You will find help and encouragement there. I did. You will also make some true friends.
By the way, did you see the documentary,
Talhotblond? It has also just been made into a movie on Lifetime. It is about the very subject on which you have posted. Someone was murdered, and many people scarred permanently because of identity fraud online. The only place I could find the documentary right now is on Amazon.com. The Lifetime movie may be viewable online soon. The movie, particularly, shows how addictive such behavior can be....and the consequences.
I must add, your wife sounds like a pretty great woman!
Patty