Unfortunately I think he has kind of been this way since the beginning. I think all of the stresses of life and kids has maybe made it worse. I think I am the one who has truly changed. I think as I have grown up more I have become less tolerant and feel held back. I am working on my issues now with a life coach trying to truly be confident and independent. Hoping that maybe that will encourage him to be more open to working on his as well we'll see. Thanks for responding