Yes this is complicated for you. You're a smart lady and probably know how some people tend to follow similar patterns with negative relationships. Since you had a former negative marriage and then the last one that affected you - have you done the inner work to avoid making the wrong choices? Like I said before - sometimes the one factor that draws us to a person, might not be the best choice, if we're not in a healthy place. If I wanted to find someone again, I'd have to do the same work to avoid being drawn to the same kind of man.

I guess the question is - can you get involved without risking your inner happiness and peace? You're in a safe position in life ATM but what if this man is good for you? Maybe make a deal with yourself - you'll enjoy time together and see what happens.