hey. i guess the question is about both. firstly, i'm not sure we have the best fit... but... she is a nice lady and she is trying to help me. i believe that. so why isn't that enough for me? because i can find that on boards basically. secondly, it is a concern more generally. i wish i could interview t's and pick someone who seemed to click with me. who was an orientation of my choosing for a change. trouble is it has been such a fight to see someone at all i really have to make do with what i have. tears. i am starting to wonder more generally about therapy. i mean... if i get a psychodynamic t then i struggle with some of those concepts too. what do i want... what do i want... i want someone who is a good personality fit. but given my personality... that is pretty hard to find. impossible really. one t who was a good fit. in all my years of therapy. sigh. i don't know. i'm sorry.