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Hi, this may help but sorry if I go this wrong and I am not the best person with these things but even so this is my take on it. Once, personally, myself when I was in CBT I was asked what a happy person would be like or look like to me… in regards to personality traits and the way they present themselves to others. My answer doesn’t really matter here but I was shock when the T pointed out this isn’t what happy is like or really is like. All that I had just said to her was in her opinion what I think of other people and how I perceive others to be like. Actually she was right what I said wasn’t true of being happy in general or it applying to myself. What I describe to her in my reply of what being happy as person is or like in some sense, was really what I used to self-defeat myself. I compare myself and then viewed myself as being horrible because there was no way I could live up to what I perceived being happy was like. But actually I was just comparing myself unrealistically to others when no one is the same or deals with the same things in the same way.
This may help you understand in some ways, but I can’t be sure this is how your T is trying to get you to view this. Please, I may have this wrong and I am sure you will figure out what and how those questions relate to you personally. But I think your T is trying to get you to think about how realistically what you would be like if those comments applied to you. Not what you think of those comments in general but how would they apply to you. If you could take away those barriers in some respects. Also maybe think of it as in the future, if you moved past this and were looking back on how you have changed. What would you be like in that future time considering those questions to how you are now?
I am sorry if I got this wrong or wasn’t helpful… and this is just only my take on this and I am sure you know I don’t really have a clue myself. I hope you don’t mind my reply.
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