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At this point, since she's fairly early in recovery, I think she's probably leaning on him ALOT for security in her sobriety, plus looking for "love." Obviously she's not going to really FIND love, but she thinks that's what she's getting. And I don't know how long this guy has been sober -- has he been sober a long time? If he has, then SHAME on him because what he's doing is what we call "13 stepping" a newcomer. He's taking advantage of a newcomer who is obviously very insecure, and vulnerable and who often "falls" for the first man (or woman, as the case may be" )who first shows interest in them.
I'd leave the situation alone at this point. Hopefully, things will "quiet down" and she'll see what's happening after a certain point -- and/or a member will point out what's going on. Or perhaps the guy will just dump her and move on. But I would NOT intervene at this point as this will throw her into a spiral, and she'll undoubtedly relapse and you don't want that!
So wait and see what happens -- wait til she has more time under her belt. But right now she's just too vulnerable. Best of luck & God bless. Hugs, Lee
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