I used to avoid eyes....forced myself not to and now I don't have the problem. Depending on the person or situation of course it still happens but on a quite normal level I expect...even for an anxiety ridden feller like me. Maybe 5% of encounters? The rest of the time I don't even think about it now. It's completely natural and my self esteem grew quite a bit after mastering it. I think it'll be that way for anyone with practice. I can't even remember when I stopped doing it consciously. I knew furtive eyes looked bad to others. made me look weak in a way. I forced myself to fix it. It can be done.

Another thing I changed way way back. For the love of God folks. If you have to shake someones hand? Have a 1/2 way firm grip. I don't make the rules but a fairly firm handshake spells out some social stuff about you and it's all good. Mainly guy advice that one I think...that's a big thing with us. Get the eyes thing going though. That's key to some real advancement in self I promise you. Force it. It'll be awkward and feel tough but it won't be forever. Just keep doing it....you'll forget you're doing it eventually.