i recently asked my current T if he would stay in touch with me. not as friends but just couldn't he call from time to time so i wouldn't feel like he was disappearing from my life and i knew he would say no but i had to ask anyway. his response was quite helpful. he said that i had to deal with the loss and if i was expecting that he would call me sometime then i would be able to put it off and not deal with the feelings that arose from losing someone. he said you'll have other losses in life, like ending romantic relationships and people dying etc and this is an opportunity to learn to cope with those kinds of feelings.

i hate it but i know he's right.