Its called the "Terrible Two's" Basically at this age children discover they are separate human beings from their mom's. Two year olds are the age of developing independance - they want to dress themselves, feed themselves, make their own choices, pick what they want to do.

When my son was going through this I endered him into a type of nersery school called "Relief Nursery". he was able to go three - four days a week for 2-3 hours. that way he got to play with children his own age and I got some time for myself.

Anyway At relief nursery I got to talk to other parents with children my childs age and I learned that the temper tantums, brattyness and so on is normal and some tips to handle the terrible twos.

one big thing that helped me and my child was offering 2 choices or things instead of plunking something down and saying this is what you are doing, going to eat and so on. By offering two choices of things my son was able to make his own choice of what he wanted to eat and so on and since he chose it there was no temper.

For getting him dressed I bought sweat pants not jeans so that he could put them on and off himself and when I folded his clothes I would put a complete set together - 1 shirt, 1 sweat pants, 1 briefs, 1 pair of socks and folded them in such a way that when he picked a pair of sweat pants he had the rest of his outfit folded inside. Then instead of putting his clothes in a dresser I put them on a shelf so he could see at a glance what he wanted. He could pick his own clothes and didn't have to wait for me to get done with whatever I was doing.

His toys were in boxes with a picture of the type of toys t hat go in that box so that he could get the toy he wanted without dumping the whole toy box. Because he knew what toys went where he had no problem picking up his toys. Especially if I had him do it before dinner.

You might also try a parenting class in your area. Your therapist will know where the nearest on is located. possibly head start in your area may have one running.

Hang in there.