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He wasn't too depressed to go out biking... but he was too depressed to clean the kitchen or do chores???? Have you considered sending him home to his mother's till he figures out what he wants to do when he grows up???? just a thought.......

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HECK yeah, I've thought about it! I'm glad you can see the reason for my resentment. I want to rattle him, believe me.

This is something I went through a few years ago, as well -- the concept of "tough love". I am completely on board with the concept, but it is very difficult to implement with an adult. If I could have someone help me figure out the logistics of exactly HOW to go about it, I would. But how do you kick someone out who you've given 1/2 of your house ownership to? Someone who you love and don't want to hurt, but rather get back on track? I could physically push him out of the house but it doesn't mean he'd move across the country to live with his mother. He'd probably camp out in the backyard or set up living space in our garage. I'm okay with the WHAT and WHY, but I'm still lost on the HOW.

Ok, now I'm going to go back and read the rest of your post. Thanks for understanding -- I feel confused and hurt and taken for granted but I just don't know what to do about it. I feel very powerless to change my situation, which is unusual for me -- I think this is only the 2nd time in my life when I've felt this way.

*sigh*