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Originally Posted by stopdog
I have not been told so, but even if it happened - so what? All people have boundaries - even clients - sometimes people bump into them. Even therapists. I have told the therapist things were none of her business (example how much I get an hour on a case) and so forth. I have boundaries with people in real life - I have them with the therapist. IF the therapist got hurt about what I thought about her or therapy or if I quit - I think the therapist should go get therapy again herself.
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Mostly agree. We deal with boundaries all the time; boundaries are not exclusive to therapy. I do think there is a difference though between accidently/inadverdently bumping up against a boundary (which we all do and is not some fatal error or anything; we can all deal with those kinds of boundary crossings pretty much without blinking) and knowing clear well that you are about to stomp all over a person's boundaries and doing it anyway just out of meanness or spite or manipulativeness or whatever. If someone deliberately, knowingly, and intentionally jumps up and down on my boundaries, they are going to hear from me that they have gone too far and I won't accept that kind of treatment from them. I personally think T's have that same right to object to poor treatment from people, including their clients. Nowhere does it say a T has to accept deliberate mistreatment from anyone. Wouldn't that just be enabling bad behavior anyway?