I am thinking of you and mostly you when I write this... Your such a "go getter" an achiever, a lady on the go... I admire your strength and what you have accomplished in you life.. I am sure you sometimes tearfully sit back and scratch your head and wonder how you got yourself in this situation..........I see everyone "rallying" around your husband while you’re the ONE DOING everything.... Makes one want to scream I am sure...

Sometimes when a person we love has depression and anxiety we sometimes tip toe or walk on egg shells because we don’t want to do anything to push them back into the dark hole.. So when one is carrying the full load of life, folks tend to forget we are human too.. I don’t care how strong a woman is; she is still a woman and has needs too… And when her needs are not met, she becomes overwhelmed and/or starts self medicating with prescription pills or other things…or pulls the covers over her head and tries to hide .. or feels trapped and frustrated..…..In simple terms, I call it “overload”…. And the next think you know, you have also fallen into the despair of depression…

Soooo self care is so very important… Self care can mean so many different things to different people.. The key is to find the self care that best suits your needs at this time….And it is not selfish to think of one’s self….when we are boxed in and there is no light at the end of the tunnel, it makes no sense to go down with the ship… At this point I don’t think I would have total focus on what the hubby is going to do… I would focus on what I WANT… Maybe in doing this, the hubby will wake up and follow… If not, there is a somewhere a man who will not drain you, but will fill your life with the joys you most certainly deserve……..

I hope I have not said anything out of line… If I have, please feel free to delete it......I don’t want to hurt you or your hubby with my words… I care… sometimes caring hurts… and of course, my words, are just my “opinion”.. and you know how that goes…