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Originally Posted by shezbut
(((AbandonmentIssues)))
It sounds as though your (soon to be) ex is in denial. Avoiding you, talking about the divorce, and avoiding talking about the baby has DENIAL written all over it.
Does he use drugs or alcohol? Drugs like meth, crack, or hallucinogens? Does he appear to be extremely aware of his surroundings, or the complete opposite? Is he able to hold a normal conversation? (Even though he's avoiding talking about everything in your marriage, can he hold an intelligent conversation about other issues?)
Back further in your relationship...was your hub happy when you became pregnant? Was he excited? Did he accompany you to all appointments with your OB? (Btw, have you told your OB about this change in relationship? If not, do so on Monday morning. I'd imagine that your plans for birth assistance has changed a bit.)
Was his change in mood towards you gradual or completely sudden? I can't recall if you mentioned it before. I do remember you saying that he felt uncomfortable with you sexually as the baby grew. He was afraid that he would be hurting the baby through lovemaking. Did he ever put his hands on your belly and enjoy feeling the baby move around, or was it freaky to him?
Something is standing out to me, but I'm not sure what it is. Maybe these Q's and A's will make it all a little more clear to us. I hope so! 
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He does drink, but I dont know how much right now. The last time I talked he was able to hold a conversation but you could tell he didnt want to talk. His change was all the sudden when I was around 20 weeks pregnant, but it gradually got worse after that.
He was never afraid to have sex. He wanted it but it was always very uncomfortable for me as I grew bigger, but we always did the deed through other ways, if you know what i mean.
He put his hand on my belly a few times, but when the baby would poke out(it would make my belly lopsided) he joked that it was creepy.
I thought he was very excited, he planned this baby with me.
Which is why I dont get his sudden silence.