Eventually you go away to school/work and get away from them and spend the next 20 years in therapy and in building your own life. Think about the many historical people jailed in London prisons/the Tower and how they wrote books, ran their lives from there for many years; pretend your prison is an artist's garret and work hard on your schooling so you can get more opportunities when you are away from her; she cannot control your learning/growing up. Become the "good" little daughter with her own 5-year agenda