My Support Forums - View Single Post - in terms of sexual attractiveness, just how horrible is it to be fat?

hamster-bamster · Jul 14, 2012, 03:49 PM

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Originally Posted by Raindropvampire

I'm a big girl always have been. I have never had trouble dating or with sex. I will say that depending on your size there are certain positions that are not advised. I own my size. I leave it up to my hubby as to whether the lights are on/off. My hubby is a small guy and really never dated a big girl before so wasn't sure if he'd be ok. He now swears if anything ever happens to me he'll never give a skinny girl the time of day again. He loves every inch of me. There are times I'll wake up and he'll have pulled the covers off of me and he'll just be watching me sleep(that still creeps me out a little). He said a lot of his attraction to me is how confident I am. I'm not always asking "Am I pretty?" "How does this make me look?" I'm just me and I accept me! Anyone who doesn't can eat a d*** I've always accepted the fact that weight matters to some people. Those people don't need to bother with me. To those that care more about substance over style or find fat beautiful I'm their girl! I guess the point is you have to be comfortable with you. Know that you are beautiful no matter what. Anyone that tells you otherwise, well you just point them to me and I'll sort their hash.

What a terrific post! Thank you!

So he Skyped me when I was naked straight out of the shower. I positioned myself in front of the camera in such a way that only my naked shoulders were visible but not below. My shoulders are just a tad fat. My hair was wet. I started pushing my hair back saying out loud that it is in the way. He said: "No, the hair and everything are beautiful". At this point I think I will officially stop obsessing and accept that he will like me the way I am. Instead of obsessing, I will spend my energy working on self-acceptance and confidence along the lines you suggest. Thanks again

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