I used to email T like 30-40 times a week. I didn't violate his boundaries because there was no clear ones to start. BUT I did push his limits with emails, and stomp on his boundaries a bit.

What did he do? Had several calm conversations with me, and came up with different cognitive approaches at changing my behavior. I become super child like for those conversations. If he acted any different it would have been disastrous to our relationship.