i think you're actually hoping something is going to happen with this man. do you want to tell him because you want to deal with the transference or because you really hope he'll say "oh barbarella i fancy you too, let's go out!" i'm sorry to say it won't happen. your psychiatrist will reject your advances if you make them. i think you're reading into things a lot. how do you know he wasn't dressed up and wearing cologne because he had a lunch date?