Hmmmmmm, my husband ignores situations that he doesn't want to deal with.......like dealing with the IRS....he completely ignored their letter about back taxes being owed because he didn't know how & didn't want to deal with it. I had gone back to KY to fix up my farm at the time....something initially was for us....but I kicked him out when he ended up coming here (long story).

Just like he's ignoring dealing with the fact that he's not paying the mortgage on the house we own & have owned for years which is where he's living.......I honestly don't know what their problem is that they can't step up to responsibilities (mind you....my husband who I left 5 years ago & couldn't get a divorce because of the financial mess he had made out of our life is 60 years old......he never grew up.....was always like this).

Maybe you are better off finding out what he's really like now & get him out of your life....even if you do have a baby to take care of by yourself....at least you are better off than living your life with someone who treats you like that.......things like that show up after marriage because everyone is putting on their sell themselves faces before the marriage.....after the true self shows up.

Best if you get a good lawyer & nail him for all the support you deserve to get for the baby from him....he will probably be irresponsible about paying....but neglected child support is a prisonable offense.

Another point I wanted to make about divorce....if you are in a no fault state (which most are).....there is no cause for divorce even if it is desertion. I looked that up because I thought my husband might claim that on me because I left him even though in actuality, he came to my farm & I kicked him out & back to our California home....then I ran out of money so I have never been able to go back & get most of my things which I left there 5 years ago......found out that in no fault divorce stated that desertion even if it happens isn't something that is a reason for divorce.....HOWEVER....it can help with what you get out of the divorce procedings....especially when a baby is involved.....& the house will probably HAVE to be sold because everything in a no fault divorce is split 50/50 assets & debts.

I am so sorry that this happened to you. Take care of yourself....I know that the stress has to be hard on you being pregnant & it will also be a bit on the baby....it's amazing that when we are pregnant, the stress we feel does seem to have an effect on the baby.

Wishing you all the success is dealing with this but don't go easy on him either.