I am very, very careful with boundaries and my Ts. I make sure to never get within a 100 yard distance of them. I guess I get worried that they'll yell at me or get upset at me or walk away from me.

I have written letters to my team telling them they're being ridiculous. But I'm learning to express anger and I'm kind of confused why your therapist got upset about this, because sometimes the only way you can do it is through writing. I've never pulled out of a program or T like that, but to each his own. It seems his feelings got in the way, and that probably shouldn't happen. My therapists have always encouraged anger out of me, but maybe I'm a different sort of client? I don't know?