Been in love with my therapist (I don't ever call it transference.....feelings are feelings) for over 7 years, after over a year, I told him of my feelings (scared to death) he handled it with gentleness and sensitivity ...I think T's usually (after all, they are trained to pick up nuances of feelings, etc).....know how you might be feeling about them.

Unfortunately, my t has feelings for me and he fights them. We are close in age and so much alike it is unbelievable. THere isn't any subject he won't discuss. In essence, we are having a personal relationship.

I guess you could begin with.....there is something I would like to say, but am feeling very nervous/uncomfortable, etc, etc...and just say what you are feeling.

He sits next to me on the couch and I always bring him dinner; I used to bring in candles and flowers.....he plays music, as we both love it; I could write a book on what has transpired after almost 8 years.

He loves to flirt and so do I; I have somehow found a way to live without someone I love; it is excruciating, but it is what it is.

There was one night a few years ago, where he crossed the line (not sex) . There are really no specific ways to bring it up; you will just have to begin the conversation; keep it brief, etc, and then see what he says. If he is well-trained, he won't be surprised and you can have a good dialogue.

Nicole