Anger was a huge issue for me when I began therapy. I denied that I had a problem with anger. She disagreed. She felt that I just never allowed myself to express anger. I felt like it made me a 'bad person'.

She kept pushing my buttons and she finally got the anger started! This is what she wanted. For me to 'get it all out'. Even though I was ugly to her at times, she allowed herself to be somewhat of a 'punching bag' so that I could feel safe to express anger without feeling like it was some terrible thing that only 'bad' people have.

She would tell me to follow the rules, though. (1) I could not physically hurt her (2) I was not to physically hurt myself (3) I wasn't to break or destroy anything that I would later have to suffer guilt for.

It was pretty funny when she kept answering my emails like she did. I would always send her an apology email, but she kept telling me that I had nothing to apologize for. She once said, "Believe it or not, I do not take that personal. Therapy is not about me, its about you."