I have issues with men. But then I have issues in general too. Meeting people on the internet can also have it's own hazards.

I have met some really nice men but its been within the clinic. Nurses, P'doc, Therapist, other patients. There I know I can relax because it is safe. And 99% of them are really nice people.

Maybe IT, you could find a place where you can meet women in group situations where it is safe and you can get to know them a little bit and see how you go. Even therapy groups are safe.

Maybe just chip away at it. People are who they are. Not all women are demanding.