if you were here in NY, USA no this wold not be a dissociative disorder. many people for many different reasons feel like they cant / dont have interpersonal relationships ie feel cold, heartless, indifferent when dealing with social situations. and it happens for many reasons for example depression makes a person feel like they need to isolate, not show people their real feelings, not have friends, someone who has had a friend move or die will sometimes pull back away from having interpersonal relationships for fear of being hurt again, borderline personality disorder also shares the symptom of having trouble in the interpersonal relationships area, as does being a gay or lesbian or other sexual orientation where there is fear of retribution, racial insecurity has this element of having trouble making friends, as does having physical disabilities....shy people / people with social anxiety also go through this...

here where I live and work depersonalization does carry the symptom of just watching what is going on but its not focused just on watching friends and being cold hearted, inability to make friends, the difference is depersonalization is about not feeling anything not even emotions like heartless, cold... its a numbness of the body and mind, its more about how you feel about your self...not about things like making friends... examples feeling numb, feeling spacy, feeling like you are not real, not all there,..example yesterday my wife and I were talking I was fine then suddenly I felt numb, no emotions my face showed no emotion and there was lack of emotion in my voice. my wife grabbed the grapefruit juice, poured me a glass and had me take a sip. the sourness of the juice re-grounded me to where I could take part in the conversation again. I had a moment of depersonalization because something in the conversation triggered me to switch from totally taking part in the conversation to numbing myself. my wife through it all was still my wife, my friend, my soul mate. the depersonalization didnt change that interpersonal relationship.to my feeling cold hearted towards her or our relationship.

thats not to say I dont have "acquaintances" where I dont feel love and friendship towards them, I know many people who I remain stand-offish when around them because I dont approve of their actions example a co worker of mine can be real gruff with clients and in the business we work in (crisis center) my work philosophy is different than hers. So I tend to pull back away from forming a close relationship with this one co worker. There are other situations too where I have been stand-offish when dealing with other people. but that doesnt have anything to do with my having depersonalization. its about having / establishing interpersonal relationships.

DID is about having alternate personalities that take control...example the alter Sunny Taking over my body and living Sunny's life, the alter Rainy taking over my body and living how Rainy needs to live...Having DID can hinder making friends/having interpersonal relationships by way of alters sabotaging friendships, or just like normal people may think "they wont like me" stuff. Usually with DID the person with the disorder has lots of friends because not only do they have the friendship of their own friends they also have the friendship of their alters friends too. many time I have found myself in situations where I am standing there talking with someone who seems to know me very very well but I dont know them because they were one of my alters friends. my internal process was about trying to figure out who this dude or gal was.

there could be all kinds of reasons why you are not making friends, being stand-offish with others during social situations.. my suggestion dontact your treatment providers they can tell you what this is in you and help you learn to overcome this problem