I actually read somthing interesting about narcisists as well. Aparently this comes from them "being abandoned" at a young age. So it is important to understand that they are not "born evil" people. There is a background to them and they are ususally extremely vulnerable and their behaviors are walls they build up to protect that.

And ofcourse there is also the kind of narcisist that was very spoiled as a child and became to just expect the world to revolve around them. I have seen this type at horse shows. They don't care about the horse, they care only about the "win" the horse can provide. I feel sorry for the horses that end up owned by a narcisist.

Yes Perna, I saw that information and it discribes the woman that was a coleader I had and I should have never trusted her in telling her about finding out my husband was a binge alcoholic. She used that information to isolate me for many years. She is very much discribed in this information, she is a very clever social climber who can act like the life of the party and all those that she gets close to have "something" she wants. I never met anyone like her before. Her phiosophy was very different than mine.

I remember how she "used" her horses yet left them out without any water in the extreme heat. I was the one everyone came to because they knew I would speak up. They were afraid to speak up themselves. They still hang out with her even though they know she can be like this. These kind of people can be quite charming and powerful.

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