I agree with cocoabeans. Moreover, you should have left a long time ago - you are rattling off a list of telltale signs of trouble. You deserve better in life. You will not change him. Whatever the underlying diagnosis does not matter. If you have enough money to raise the child alone, and it sounds like you do because HE asks YOU for money, leave and pay him some amount catching the moment when he is in need to induce him to give up parental rights, because otherwise you will have way too much trouble on your head down the road. I do not have time now to list what he can do to you and your child if he retains parental rights, but if you are interested, I will return to this thread later. Good luck with your pregnancy.