I have recently filed for divorce. My wife is a serial cheater (9 times that i know of over the course of 26 years) has gambled away almost all my money and is an alcoholic. Yes, I know I should have divorced her many years ago but we(or maybe it was just me) were still raising a family. Being in the military, I was able to "escape" the problem by being deployed. I retired about 18 months ago and began seeing her for what she really is for the first time. So why the hell do I feel guilty about initiating the divorce process? Why am I expecting her to feel any remorse?