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Originally Posted by Rose Panachée
Something else I dont understand is your S/Os response to this whole thing.
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It's called trust?
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Originally Posted by Rose Panachée
...it is not for you to have to take the temp or monitor things so YOU are safe with someone who is clearly dangling a carrot in front of your face.
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more like a peach
No one is proposing an open, three-way marriage or an affair or anything. The T simply VALIDATED her client's feelings. These things can happen at work, anywhere. Do we have to feel threatened or feel our r/s or our safety is threatened because our S/O makes a joke with the waitress at the restaurant? I don't like having to choose between NEVER chatting with another stranger, or having an S/O, or feeling WOUNDED because my S/O is having FUN with someone besides me.
So where do you draw the line? What is that WOUNDED, insecure feeling about, where does it come from? So instead of closing our eyes and starting over yet again, talk it out with someone who DOES matter, and I agree, if they need support, there's a vehicle in place for them to get it, so that's the good news, right? Good comments, Rose. I understand what you're saying: to please take the benefit of your experience. But I don't see an understanding of THIS situation, or other examples that would explain, like there was for rainbow's thread. that was an awesome thread, as hard as it may have been for rain to read it? because everybody discussed having those same feelings.